Only getting back to this now.
Youth wrestling and college wrestling are worlds apart, especially on the level to which you're making effort to compare them here. One might be seen as a social no-no, backed by frowns and finger wagging, while the other is protected by by-laws and potentially severe penalties against institutions, coaches, and even student-athletes who practice such unethical behavior. They're not the same, and really shouldn't be seen as the same thing.